I came to her an education slob, convinced degrees identified worthy friends. I heard her speak, knew she married young, her husband signing her report cards. I knew she’d been in Recovery decades while I wore unmatched shoes since I […]
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It Makes No Sense
Misery is optional. You can’t think your way into a new way of living… you have to live your way into a new way of thinking. It’s a simple program for complicated people. The newcomer is the most important person […]
Continue reading »My Dear Relapsed Sponsee
Would that I had wisely guided you. You are missed. I could blame myself, welcome a dung beetle role, but I won’t. It’s a shame I couldn’t have guided you through the oceanography of Recovery, kept you from becoming some […]
Continue reading »We Failed Her
She came in angry, roaring for a fight. We greeted her, asked about her, heard her recitation of grievances. Most of us tried to calm her, to accept her, to make her feel among friends. One or two called BS […]
Continue reading »Making a Sponsor
Take one newcomer powerless, unable to manage life. Add a non-newcomer who has worked the Steps, at least some of them. Combine with literature, meetings, telephone, email, a touch of texting if both amenable. Mix with care, communication, honesty, humility… […]
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