Detachment is a key to recovery from codependency. It strengthens our healthy relationships—the ones that we want to grow and flourish. It benefits our difficult relationships—the ones that are teaching us to cope. It helps us! ~ Beattie, Melody. The Language of Letting Go: Hazelden Meditation Series (p. 94). Hazelden Publishing. Kindle Edition.
The purpose of our difficult relationships
is teaching us to cope?
That must be my greatest need,
for it’s certainly the most persistently used
teaching tool I encounter!
How do I learn to cope with emotions
without sabotaging myself?
An online list includes…
playing with your kids
watching a funny movie
might cheer you up.
Calming down before saying something you might regret.
can be approached by
clean the house (or a closet, drawer, or area),
Coloring, yoga, drawing,
drinking tea, gardening,
going for a walk, exercising,
listening to music,
writing a gratitude list,
put on lotion that smells good,
read a book,
squeeze a stress ball,
take a bath, treat yourself
to a manicure, pedicure, massage,
write in a journal…
call a friend.
My go-to solution is my old standby,
stupid computer games,
but obviously there are dozens of ways to detach.
I will use a different one next time
I’m confronted with my need to detach
and absorb the current lesson in detachment!