We do not join OA to please anyone else; our primary purpose is to do what is best for ourselves. ~ L., Elisabeth. Food for Thought: Daily Meditations for Overeaters (Hazelden Meditations Book 1) . Hazelden Publishing. Kindle Edition.

The First Step is written in first person:
We admitted we were powerless over food —
that our lives had become unmanageable.
We make a very personal decision
in joining Overeaters Anonymous.
Sometimes two people come together,
but often when  that happens
one returns time after time
while the other comes only once
or returns without enthusiasm
and soon drifts away.
But people do not stay for someone else
They stay for themselves.
Yet they do not stay alone,
but having found people like them,
people even more like them
than their own family and closest friend.
While the decision is first person,
the Steps are first person plural
and the others in Recovery
often become closer to each other
than their own family.
They have found their people,
their family of choice.