Before we actually make amends or begin to consider appropriate amends, we allow ourselves to change our attitude. That is where healing begins—within us. ~ Beattie, Melody. The Language of Letting Go: Hazelden Meditation Series (p. 243). Hazelden Publishing. Kindle Edition.

Our inclination is not to make amends
but when we decide to, we plunge in
head first too often, without guidance
from our sponsor. We’re likely to blow it,
to say the wrong things, to expect
when we admit our slight error
they’ll be delighted to admit they started it.
They might, but they need not.
And we need it not, too, it being
reciprocity. What we…I need is forgiveness,
nor from the other, from me!
I am learning at long last
to change my attitude
and forgive and accept myself!