They say that pain is inevitable but suffering is optional. If I learn to accept that pain is part of life, I will be better able to endure the difficult times and then move on, leaving the pain behind. ~ The Courage to Change, page 83

Oh, me, poor me. Nobody has suffered so before.
Well, what about Job? Joan of Arc…or her parents!
Yes. Into every life rain falls. The good rain, soaking rain,
the rain that nourishes the land. And the hard, driving rain,
the painful rain, dreary rain, flooding rain. But it’s the same
and falls on all people. And the same rain can bring delight
for one person, while cancelling anticipated events,
hurting the one next door.

Pain comes. Suffering comes. But some accept the hardship
and move through it. Others take up residence there.
We do not choose the pain. We do choose how long to suffer.