I’ve recognized that a characteristic that once allowed me to survive is no longer necessary, or that an asset that has lost its proportion makes my life unmanageable. ~ Family Groups, Al-Anon. Courage to Change—One Day at a Time in Al‑Anon […]
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No Lies Necessary
I didn’t have to lie to people in these meetings, and eventually I learned that I didn’t have to lie to anyone anywhere. I came to see that I can live my life for inner peace and not for outward […]
Continue reading »Like a Crowbar
The Twelve Steps worked like a crowbar, prying into my dishonesty and fear. I didn’t like the things I learned about myself, but I didn’t want to go back where I had come from. I found out that there was […]
Continue reading »Whatever Games
Whatever games are played with us, we must play no games with ourselves, but deal in our privacy with the last honesty and truth. ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson It’s not that I cannot lie to myself. I spent most of […]
Continue reading »Pants on Fire
Lying is a particular talent of mine, fine-honed and polished with use. My sponsor knows when I hedge the truth. If an answer is generalized, minimized, or “fine” or “okay” she quickly dredges out the truth. What happens, though, when […]
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