The minute we put our work on a service plane, the alcoholic commences to rely upon our assistance rather than upon God. He clamors for this or that, claiming he cannot master alcohol until his material needs are cared for. Nonsense. Some of us have taken very hard knocks to learn this truth: Job or no job—wife or no wife—we simply do not stop drinking so long as we place dependence upon other people ahead of dependence on God.
Burn the idea into the consciousness of every man that he can get well regardless of anyone. The only condition is that he trust in God and clean house. ~ A.A. World Services Inc. Alcoholics Anonymous, 4th Edition. A.A. World Services, Inc.. Kindle Edition.

Job or no job—wife or no wife—
we hold on to our addiction
so long as we place dependence
upon other people
ahead of dependence on God.
We are good at playing the game
OH, ME, POOR ME!
YOU MUST HELP ME CHANGE
like you’ve said I can!
Certainly when working with others
we find ourselves wanting to rescue,
to help them get clean.
But it’s not our job. So long as we play the game,
the rescue game, They will depend on us
rather than the Power greater than we
that we offer. Recovery only works
if we help them understand,
“The only condition is
that he trust in God and clean house.”
I’m here to help but the real help you can get is through
understanding you’re powerless
and surrendering control to God.