You think you hold against your brother what he has done to you. But what you really blame him for is what you did to him. It is not his past but yours you hold against him. And you lack faith in him because of what you were. Yet you are as innocent of what you were as he is. What never was is causeless, and is not there to interfere with truth. ~ Schucman, Dr. Helen. A Course in Miracles. Foundation for Inner Peace. Kindle Edition.
The Fourth Step, “Made a searching
and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.”
often finds us starting not with wrongs we’ve done
but as Joe McQ wrote, “Number one for a selfish,
self-centered person is resentments.
Resentments effectively block us from God.
At the time we have resentments,
these thoughts dominate our minds,
causing us to turn our lives over
to the people and things we resent.
If people and things we resent
are directing our lives,
we can’t carry out the decision
that we just made in Step 3.”*
We don’t think we resent based on our deeds
but we find it true! Chances are
we started the ball rolling
but remember only the response!
*McQ, Joe. The Steps We Took (p. 52). August House. Kindle Edition.