“You haven’t been able to control your son, but you can gain control of yourself,” he said. “You can deal with your own codependency.” — Melody Beattie, Codependent No More, page 24
Codependents are me
(or at least include me!)
Codependency is doing for others
in a way of setting out
to meet needs but for others
(in our opinion more needy than we)
but actually getting no needs met.
I can’t change your needs,
his needs, her needs…
I can change only my needs.
God, grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change,
Courage to change the things I can,
And wisdom to know the difference.
And God, I need the willingness
not to mess with what I have no power
or right to change!!