If you want to get rid of it, you have to do something to make it go away. It doesn’t matter whose fault it is. Your codependency becomes your problem; solving your problems is your responsibility.~ Melony Beattie. Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself (p. 16). Hazelden Publishing. Kindle Edition.

It’s none of my business what others do to me,
none of my business what anyone thinks of me,
none of my business what others are doing or why.
The Big Book says, “We should be sensible, tactful,
considerate and humble without being servile or scraping.
As God’s people we stand on our feet;
we don’t crawl before anyone.”
As long as I turn my life over
to my higher power and earnestly seek
to be sensible, tactful, considerate and humble,
I can and should stand firmly in my decision,
in my Recovery, in the Serenity I seek
and I need not crawl or scrape, or feel myself inferior.
I need not please people beyond my best efforts.
It is my responsibility to find peace without groveling.