I have confused support with action. I learned that the woman was saying: “I am behind you 100 percent and will support you in whatever you do. If you need something from me, then you have to ask for what you want.” ~ Voices of Recovery (Kindle Locations 1472-1474).

Confusing support with action…
how often have I done that?
I can’t support him without serving him,
without being at his beck and call,
rescuing him, doing for him
what he would be better doing
for himself. How can I be supporting him
if, like him, I sit in my chair with a computer
and get up when I want something…
or when he wants something…
or when he perceives the little dog
wants something, or when the big dog
demands I get up and open the door
then, having learned his lesson well,
will as clearly as if he had words
tell me I might as well pass out dog bones
while I’m up.

Confusing thought with action…
how often have I done that?
Thinking you can’t be supporting me
if I’m doing all the work, if you just listen,
nod, praise, and only if asked advise.
I confuse support with action
whether I’m giving or taking
and don’t feel like I’m loved
unless you’re codependent with me
as much as I am with those around me.

God, I know you support me,
that you will the best for me,
that you give advice but I must ask,
that you won’t do for me what I can
do for myself, but that you have proven
over and over that you give support
by doing for me what I could never do
without you.